孩子们最想要的是什么？不只是快快长大！ The 10 biggest wishes of children around the world – and how you can help

如果孩子们有一朵能实现愿望的七色花，他们一定会很快把花瓣用光，因为孩子们的愿望实在太多啦。但是，和成人不同，孩子们的愿望往往都很简单，很纯净，就像孩子的心灵一样。如果你能了解孩子的愿望，你也可以为他们做一朵“七色花”。

1. The Wish To Have Fun
愿望一：开心

When asked by adults, children will answer questions about what they want to be when they grow up. But the chances are they are probably happier sticking in the ‘now’ and doing whatever it takes to just have fun and enjoy themselves. You can take a step back and let this happen as often as possible.
长大以后想做什么？如果大人问起这个问题，孩子们可能会作出回答。但是孩子们往往更喜欢专注于当下，做任何能让自己开心的事情。大人应该向后退一步，尽量让孩子自由地享受当下的生活。

2. The Wish To Play
愿望二：玩耍

If you’re lucky, fun and enjoyment can come in a great many forms when you’re a kid. Play is usually at the heart of it. Play allows children’s imaginations to run riot, it gives a channel for competition, it lets them immerse and lose themselves, forgetting everything else. You can create an environment or design a schedule where, for a certain time, play is put right at the top of the agenda.
如果你幸运的话，你在孩童时期可以有各种各样找乐子的方式，玩耍通常都是乐趣的主要来源。玩耍让孩子们的想象力自由奔跑，让孩子们有机会互相比拼，让孩子们沉浸其中，忘却了其他的一切。你可以为孩子们玩耍创造环境，或在安排日程时把孩子的玩耍放在第一位。

3. The Wish For Mischief
愿望三：恶作剧

Children like to test how far they can go with adults. They revel in cheek, little masters and mistresses when it comes to prodding adults, and often taking enormous amusement in our great displeasure. You can accept their devilish tendencies, and try not to let your temper fray to soon.
孩子们喜欢逗成年人，看成年人对他们的忍耐度有多大。在肆无忌惮地恶作剧时，成年人的强烈不满会让这些小淘气包们乐开花。你只能忍受他们喜欢恶作剧的天性，并努力克制自己的情绪。

4. The Wish To Experiment
愿望四：尝试

The Wish To Experiment is about testing, probing, learning and discovery. You can let them try things and make their own mistakes, even if they take the occasional bump along the way.
孩子们渴望尝试、探索、学习和发现。你应该让他们去尝试、去犯错，即使一路上会磕磕绊绊。

5. The Wish To Be Accepted
愿望五：被认可

No child wants to feel like the outsider, although many do. They want recognition, appreciation, engagement and acceptance – much like adults. You can unconditionally accept and forgive them any misdemeanours, not banish them to their rooms for too long.
没有哪个孩子想被排除在外，尽管有很多孩子都有这种遭遇。他们渴望被认可、被欣赏、被接受，渴望参与进来，这一点和成人很像。你应该无条件地接受孩子，原谅他们犯的小错，别把他们关在屋子里太久。

6. The Wish For Friendship
愿望六：友谊

For the most part, children like the company of other children; even the most independent and the most happy playing on their own. So you can make sure they have a small social circle.
在大多数情况下，孩子们都喜欢和其他小朋友在一起，即使是最独立最爱独处的孩子也是如此。你可以帮孩子们打造一个小社交圈。

7. The Wish For Trust
愿望七：信任

Children can be disarmingly trusting of people; even complete strangers. But it’s likely that only those who have been betrayed or deceived will wish for trust. You can be honest, give them no reason to mistrust you.
孩子们可以毫无保留地信任他人，即使是完全陌生的人。但是那些曾遭受背叛或欺骗的孩子会渴望信任。你应该对孩子诚实，让他们没有理由不信任你。

8. The Wish Not To Work Too Hard
愿望八：不想太累

Adaptable as they are, children should be allowed to be children: play, have fun, experiment. You can try to remember this, once they’ve finished washing up, mowing the lawn and building the latest extension.
尽管孩子的适应力强，但还是应该让孩子做孩子的事：玩耍、开心、尝试。你要记住，一旦孩子们洗好碗、除完草、拼完新买的乐高，就应该让他们休息和放松。

9. The Wish To Learn
愿望九：学习

They might not admit it, but children want to learn new things. That’s why they play, explore, discover for themselves. You can let them be the human sponges they are, create environments and make games where they can make discoveries and learn new skills.
孩子们也许不会承认，但孩子们也想要学习新事物。这就是为什么他们会自己去玩耍、探索、发现。你可以让他们像海绵一样去吸收新知识，为他们创造学习的环境，设计一些能让他们从中发现并学到新技能的游戏。

10. The Wish To Wish
愿望十：做梦

Children want time to dream and wish. Let them use some of the school holidays to be idle, to drift, to dream, to wish.
孩子们需要做梦和幻想的时光。学校放假时，给孩子们留出一些无所事事、放飞思绪、做梦和幻想的时间吧。

英文来源：LifeHack
翻译&编辑：丹妮
审校：齐磊、韩鹤